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Seeing Good or Available Partners

Creating Your Own Reality
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A regular column by Rinatta Paries, Aug 22, 2002          Not rated (click to add your own rating)


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I never realized how many babies were out there, until I recently had one. Now I see them everywhere. It's not that there are more babies today than there were yesterday, but I've only just become aware of them. Today I'll explain how this phenomenon is related to the frustration many singles face, and how changing one simple thing can actually change your life.
 
Relationship Advice from the Relationship Coach Singles frequently complain to me that all men or all women are...well, they don't use a very flattering description. Another version of this is, "There are no good men or women left." Or its cousins, "There are no good men or women where I live," and "Where do I find good men or women?"

My response is that we bring into our lives a reflection of what we believe and focus on. We are only able to see what we believe we will see. The belief comes first and then the
reality. If you subscribe to any version of the above, you will make yourself right and create your experience accordingly.

Let me give you a simple example of what it's like to see what you focus on. When you admire or want a certain type of car, don't you see it everywhere? All those cars were there before you focused on them, never noticed by you. Your desire or admiration makes them more visible over other cars.

Now here's an example of seeing what you believe you will see. If you are expecting someone to be angry or unpleasant, don't they end up being that way? Perhaps they were not angry at all, or not angry at you. If you had no expectation of their behavior, would they behave the same?

The issue is not about what types of singles are in your community or whether there are any good men or women left. It is not about men and women out there at all, because you don't need many men or women to be a particular way. What you want and need is one compatible partner. And this one partner is waiting for you to change your belief about what you will see and make him or her visible to you.

 
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