Feel Your Grief

After a little prodding, she admitted she had managed to get over her divorce by getting into a relationship quickly after her marriage ended. "I was amazed at how easily I could forget my husband," she said. Her relationship with her new boyfriend lasted only a few months, and yet she says she still has feelings for him.

Is my friend ready for another new relationship? Perhaps if she wants her next relationship to closely resemble her previous two. But not if she wants something different.

The only way to forget a former relationship as soon as you enter a new one is by avoiding your feelings of grief over the breakup. You would instead look for the new relationship to fill you up.

The only way to do this is to hold your needs, wants, and desires trapped in your heart, unfelt, unmet, and waiting for the next partner. Although most singles think this is what they are supposed to do, it is not.

How do you feel about your past relationships? Have you swept your feelings under the rug? Are you still secretly pining for someone?

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If so, remember that as long as you don't allow yourself to feel the affects of a breakup, you will recreate exactly what you had in the past. If you want something different-- a fulfilling relationship -- you have to allow yourself to feel.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries
www.WhatItTakes.com

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