Sexual matching

Maybe your partner doesn't know your hot spots. Teach him how to push your buttons, don't make him guess. Don't expect your partner to discover all your erogenous zones overnight, in a day or week. It takes approximately half a year. But if you really care about your lover don't make him feel guilty for your dissatisfaction.

Instead, you can enjoy the caressing of your body, maybe not very skilled but the technique is of minor importance when you concentrate on your feelings. The whole body can turn into an erogenous zone when it feels right. So, don['t make your partner feel insecure about his sexual talents, give him time to decipher your sexuality code.

Your first sexual experience was bad and you immediately make a conclusion that you can't expect for more from this partner.

Give it a thought that you both had different sexual partners in the past and what was good for your ex lover might not work for a new one. Makes sense?

Every person is individual and needs a personal approach in everything including sex. Moreover, especially when it comes to sex. For instance your ex enjoyed when you caress her in particular places, but that doesn't mean that your new lover's spots are placed there too. And it's not an easy task to find that very approach.

As to men, they have to apply their analytical skills, watching on the woman's reaction on certain area stimulation. If he will base only on the books on sexuality or on his friends' advices he won't succeed in satisfying his woman for sure. Even an impressive sexual experience with other women won't be of any use.

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Note that there are such notions as atopy or heteropy of erogenous zones. Atopy means that female erogenous zones are situated in the areas which are not common for the majority of other women. Heperopy means the lack of erogenous zones in the areas where they theoretically must be placed. For example, some women only orgasm if the intercourse takes place on a rough carpet. Can you imagine how many variations of places and methods can be?

Therefore, a man should become an explorer for a while. The best way to explore each other hot spots is together of course, but a woman can ease the task of her man by teaching or hinting him how to wind her up. It's a kind of tradition that a man must be the one who initiates everything, the active part in relationship, but if you are not willing to help him, why complaining about dissatisfaction.

Yes, a man can be the leader and initiator, but he is not a mind reader. Remember, it takes two to make mutually pleasant sexual discoveries.