Coping With Rejection

If anyone knows the intimates of rejection, it's me! I've been rejected in sooo many areas of my life, both personal and professional, that I've literally wept buckets of tears at seemingly the injustice of it all...

My very first love whom I will remember always in the realms of my heart, now that he has transitioned into the afterlife, once threw me over for a chance encounter with the al around sex goddess who could shoot a mean game of pool and still manage to look alluring doing it.

Took me a while to allow my young love back into my good graces, after he'd come to his senses and realized that just because it looked good, didn't mean it was all good for him...you get my meaning.

Our relationship fizzled eventually though, because I'd simply lost 'trust' that a young 18 year old wouldn't declare undying love for his 16 year old girlfriend and not have the hots, yet again for that other girl across the street...

As a mature woman of 46, I was dealt another bout of rejection when my marriage ended. I think that's when I began to question, "Is this what my life is destined to become? A series of rejections?

It was when I began a journey of self dicovery...finding out all that I could about the person I was inside this human existence. I've since learned that how to accentuate the positives that is inside of me, in order to deal with rejections that doesn't have a personal agenda...Rejection is not my fault and shouldn't be taken personally...

My young boyfriend was attracted to someone else. His natural instinct to want to explore the possibility of a similar attraction had nothing to do with me. It was human nature on his part to think selfishly as well as immaturely of himself...

My marriage failed because both parties had simply outgrown the other. There was no reason for blame...our time together had simply ran its course.

Recently, I 've had several reasons to cry 'foul' in this rejection spectrum. After waiting for the last year, I and my fellow nurses have been waiting for the cost of living raise that many in this demanding and tedious profession depend upon to continue to live and survive. keeping abreast within the realm of our own activities of daily living.

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When the raises finally show on our paychecks, it is well below our heightened anticipation! I speak as an nurse insider, when I say "rejection never hit sooo hard."

This was hard not to take as a personal insult to my expertise/professionalism. But, I've learned that God has a plan for us all. Because I've never been materialistic, I wasn't going to be sweating about paying off some expensive car , house, or, designer footwear I'd recently purchased.

Rejections in my writings are something I'll touch on, in another post because as we live, learn,and withstand the onslaught of emotions that occur after the fact; it's always helpful to note how others stay positive.

If you're in love, but, feel somehow that the love isn't being returned; remember the words of a wonderful Native American motivational writer/speaker who I refer often on this journey of speaking from a place of experience. In essences, he tell us:

When love leaves you for another, or, refuses to settle in that other persons heart for you. Don't try to coarce it into staying...If you keep your heart open, just like before, it'll surely come again...

Clara B. Freeman is a freelance writer/poet/columnist living in Illinois. She also counsels on women in midlife/women issues. To learn more about her work, visit http://www.clarawriter.com for speaking engagements email clarabroger@aol.com