Dating...Who Me?

And so it was for me, as I was so intent upon showing my ex how it was done, only to have raw emotions trampled upon and my vulunerability exposed. I thought that by jumping back into the fray of dating, that I was being smart, savvy and independent.

I wasn't alone. There are many newly divorced women of the mindset that one should jump right back into man hunting after a traumatic divorce. This way of thinking is not only, incorrect, but, it can cause women more pain and suffering.

Divorce is traumatic. It leaves your spirit depleted, your body and mind exhausted and your self esteem plummeting. I know, I lived it. I thought that by finding another man to assauge my fears, tell me I was still attractive and desirable. Be there at my beck and call; then, I was back in the driver seat of control.

It's not about control. It's not about payback. It's about finding your way back to the person you are. It's about learning how to love yourself, before reentering the dating scene and possibly finding someone else to love the person that you've always been.

However, having said that, I have to remind you that if there's some malformed personage about you that you feel must be worked on, then by all means work on it. Become the best of you by unmasking yourself..go within and rediscover 'you'.

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I'v learned that in order to be ready for dating again, I must be ready for me. I love the idea of meeting and falling heads over heel with that guy who happpened to be there for when it's my time to shine, but, until then, I'm a darn good flirt and men seem to love it!

Don't make the mistake of thinking that after divorce, there's nothing left. Love will meet you when it's good and ready and after some reflection on your part, you'll be more than ready, willing and quite able to accept it with an open heart and a mind devoid of yesterday's hurt and pains...