Divorced...Now What?

Entering into marriage with that one person you feel you've been searching for all of your life and finally finding and getting to stand at the altar in front of God and man; family, friends and well wishers to say, 'I do'can be the most exciting time of a woman's life. Well, that and childbirth. Anyhow, today we're talking about the 'one'. The man who looked into your eyes aglow, on your special day,vowing to love, honor and cherish you for the rest of your natural life..Remember?

It is when the fairytale'happily ever after'becomes the reality of "I WANT A DIVORCE" and you're left feeling like some invisible power force just hit you in the pit of your stomach leaving you in pain and gasping for air, that you realize that you're about to become a 'statistic.' Another women entering the zone of being suddenly single..Are you prepared?

It is advisable for women whether married, single, or, divorced, to become survival savvy. In other words, I'm advocating that women of this New Millenium be aware of their individual worth: Mentally, physically, emotionally, financially and as a separate being from their mate. It is by appreciating what we bring to the table in and out of a relationship that will strengthen us in the instance of loss and, or, divorce of a spouse. I 'm knowing that many women, once married feel an obligation to let the man handle the 'manly' things like their joint finances...Problem. Women should be just as savvy when it comes to being financially independent. Learn how to open checking/savings accounts. Balance a checkbook.Research IRA's and profit sharing. Invest the time needed to learn about joint accounts. When children are involved, put their best interests at the forefront of any decisions you and your ex make in regards to custody sharing and educational tools that were implemented as a couple.

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When the fairytale ends and the marriage fails, women let him go.. brush the cobwell from your tresses, hold your children in the protection of your bosom and say a silent prayer for having the forethought to make preparation for the twists and turns that life sometimes offer in the world of reality...

A recent 2006 census states that 51% of women are living single lives. This doesn't mean that marriage has become outdated. Only that women are becoming experts in making life decisions that work for them...

Clara B. Freeman