Communicating Better with your Children

Effective communicating methods are essential when wanting to communicate with your child. Your job as a parent is to listen aggressively and not passively to your child request and concerns. I find it quite necessary to give my daughter my undivided attention when she wants to talk to me. I have to catch myself sometimes because I occasionally do not be listening with my ears as I should all the time while she's talking to me. I have to stop what I'm doing especially if it's something of importance. I let my daughter share her daily activities to me, and I ask her how her day at school went. If she says o.k. then I ask what she'd learn for the day.

Oftentimes once settled in from school and giving her something to either drink or eat; she revives herself and often speaks of the episodes of the day. By just listening and not asking more questions I learn about her whole day at school and everything else that took place with her and her classmates, teachers, and coming events. The more you let your child talk; the more you will find out about there day at school or when they go and be with other people. Listening to your children is one effective communicating method you should learn to master. This way when your child or children are ready to communicate with you they will trust you more; and will not hesitate or mind sharing there feelings with you because they know you will give them your undivided attention with a listening ear.

After listening to your child you can continue to encourage them to continue to be a good student in school and also that they should also continue getting good grades. Always having an open door to your child is the best way to keep the lines of communication open. Never shut the door of communication with your children. What may not be important to you may mean a great deal to your child. You primary goal should always have your child or children come to you; rather than you always having to go to them by asking probing questions. Even when your child "cuts-up" in school and they will bring you home a bad report; that they're day was not a good day and they clowned or got in trouble. You will appreciate the openness and lines of communication you have with them, you may not like the news of the day; but you will appreciate there honesty. Regardless of the situation always let your child express themselves. The truth will always surface sooner or later.

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Your child or children are an asset to you and not a liability. Look, Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of your womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3. If you are struggling with your parental rights and responsibilities sign-up to receive tips on life in general and I can help you with your parenting concerns. Copyright © 2007 Clark A. Thomas

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